So much to do and so little time to do it all! That is the cry of many female leaders today! No matter the size of your congregation, choir or praise team, the workload can be overwhelming at times. The art of balancing our homes, families, church, work and community involvement is no easy task. I have good news to bring and a word of encouragement. It can be done! One of my favorite scriptures is “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” (Phil. 4:13) Another favorite verse that brings survival to this chaos is I Peter 5:7, “Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” As you can see, the Word of God is what brings peace to my very overactive and busy mind! As I begin to think about the details of my day and the long to-do list, I can feel the Word of God drawing me to Him and speaking words of strength for that particular day. I cannot stress enough how important it is to give God the first fruits of your day by starting it with prayer and reading His Word. Now with all that being said, I know many of you that are pastor’s wives are like myself; we wear many hats. Here is a checklist for you to consider.
If you checked at least three of these, you are very busy, but there are many of us who fulfill every single role. It can be very challenging to find time to do everything that needs to be done. If you ever feel overwhelmed, take a moment and look at your list of duties. It will help you to realize that your responsibilities may be greater than your ability. Now I realize the scripture I just quoted says we can do ALL things, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we are doing them well. We must learn what our limitations are.
I grew up in a Pastor’s home and was taught to serve as a child. Now that I have been serving at New Life for 28 years, I definitely enjoy serving but have come to realize that I can’t do everything!!! Learning to pick and choose the most important roles and fulfill them to the best of my ability has been and continues to be quite a challenge. The role of a female worship leader has taken me to a new level of creativity. I have sung in church since I was 4 years old. However, singing and leading are very different. We are living in a time when female praise and worship leaders are just as popular and valued as men. It is a very unique role that only God and no one else can validate or equip you for. Training is very important; however, training alone will not equip you to lead others in worship. The Holy Ghost alive in you is the only thing that will give you the anointing to lead others to a place of heartfelt worship. Nothing can or ever will replace His anointing. There is no amount of talent or charisma that will fill the altars with people who are hungry and in desperate need of God. Only by His power and Spirit are we led and able to lead others to Christ. As females we are often driven by our emotions which is not always a good thing. We must find a way to have balance in our everyday lives or it will show through in our leading. Slow songs are not always meant for crying just as fast songs are not always meant to bring a shout or dance. We can’t be led by our emotions but only by the anointing of the Holy Ghost. This Godly life has to be lived everyday 24/7, and not only when we are on the platform or in front of an audience. Ask yourself this question, “Am I consistently creating an atmosphere for the Word of God to be brought forth?” Our main goal as worship leaders is to prepare the congregation for the Word.
People are searching for truth and looking for the REAL thing in people and churches. You are what you are when you are by yourself! Is your life consistent enough in your daily walk with God to lead people into another level of worship from week to week? You can’t take them anywhere that you haven’t already been. I have seen many female leaders who are very gifted and talented that lead on stage in a worship setting but often struggle leading off the stage. You must have favor with God and man, especially if you are leading people in worship. People will not follow someone they feel they cannot trust. The fact that you are gifted does not outweigh your attitude or your lack of servitude. Always remember you are an example to others and that you are leading at all times, not only when you are on stage. The Bible gives us a solid foundation for worship. The Old Testament tabernacle gives us a guide on how to get into the Holy of Holies. We must have direction and a plan. Just as a preacher prepares his sermon while seeking the heart of God, we as worship leaders must prepare our song sets for what God wants and not according to the beat or the key we enjoy. It takes planning and preparation. In order to make sure this happens, we must manage our time wisely. I have learned the hard way that waiting until the last minute usually ends in disaster! Pray, Plan and Prepare!!! These are the three keys to being successful not only in leading worship, but in life as well.
Purpose in your heart today to first lead your family by being the example you know you need to be and then lead others as Christ leads you into a deeper relationship with Him. Surviving this chaotic world and finding balance in today’s society is only going to be possible by looking unto Jesus! Only what you do for Christ will last. Invest your time, resources and energy into the kingdom of God and you will reap great benefits. First learn to follow Christ and to submit to your leaders; leading others in worship will then become a blessing instead of a chore or just a role we fill. Serving in God’s kingdom is a blessing and not a sacrifice. It is our privilege and honor to serve in His kingdom. Move forward with purpose and know that God has a perfect plan if you will continue to pray and put HIM first!
Written by Sis. Dorcas Hammond Dorcas Bishop Hammond is from Watkinsville, Georgia where she serves as the Pastor’s wife of New Life Apostolic Church. She attended Jackson College of Ministries in Mississippi before marrying and moving to Georgia. She and Pastor Tim Hammond have been married for 26 years and have two children; Zach, who is married to Lauren Carpenter Hammond and Autumn, who is married to Elijah Mayo. They are all working in ministry full time. Along with the many other hats she wears as Pastor’s wife, she is also the Minister of Music and Women’s Esprit Coordinator for her church. She served as the ALJC Georgia District Women’s Esprit President for 8 years. Serving in her community and helping the less fortunate are some of her greatest enjoyments. Reading, listening to music and spending time with her family are her favorite pastimes. Her passion is teaching and encouraging young people and ladies to have good relationships with others and most of all with God.